How to Deal with The Remorse After Making Bad Choices

 Being decisive is such a luxury for a heavy over-thinker like me. So often, I have been trapped in the loooong mind-meditation to examine two or more tempting options. The shillyshally side of me tends to pull me out from the battle field. And so, the wiser version of me has been trying to snatch and throw me back into the war. I can hear she says wrathfully, “For God Sake, Quick DECIDE and DO something! You’re only wasting your time!”
I know I am not the only sufferer here.

It’s so funny how people are easily scared by choices. Afraid to pick the wrong one and later been caught in an excessive dilemma, while apparently the future offers two possibilities – you’re gonna be right or you’re gonna be wrong.
If you are right, that’s cool! Don’t waste it!
But If you’re wrong? Most of the time people will feel frustrated as if their life has been ended.

But, we can’t let our-self to be in this state. So how can we cope with it?

1. Assuming that God has let you make a faulty pick for your good. God is The Omniscient. He has learned that you’ll make a mistake while you’re still busy calculating consequences. In a nutshell, yeah He does want you to make the mistake. Then is He malevolent? No. His intention is to protect you from falling into the same hole in the future, and to test your forbearance and maturity in facing the salvation. The good news is, you’ll be inherited the seat of honor once you pass the test.

2. As long as what you can do with your choices will still enable you to do good or turn you into a better person, that’s worth it! No matter which school, which employer, which job position, which man/woman or other which(es) you select. Face it, life is a constant “Lose Some Win Some” reality. If you focus on the right reasons, whatever outcomes you’ll receive will always feel right. Trust me.

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Philosophy is surprisingly interesting!

So two days ago, I hit Freedom Institute – my favorite sanctuary – to get some inspirations for my essays. Yet I came across a very interesting book, encyclopedia-sized with a huge tittle graven on it: THE STORY OF PHILOSOPHY by Bryan Magee.
Several years ago, definitely I won’t even bother to glimpse for twice, but yeah as you have probably guessed, I took it from the shelf and I READ it and I LIKED it.
So long I have been self-assuming that philosophy is a very difficult and complicated subject. Maybe because I have never really tried to understand it or now that I am older, my mind develops interest in far more serious subjects.

What kept me flipping the pages and be absorbed to the world of famous philosophers live in hundreds BC is that their thoughts and ideas gave a lot more sense to my knowledge and things that are understood in the present time. Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Pythagoras, and many others have not only enhanced my understanding on the profound use of particular academic courses, but also the way I see this life.

Please let me cite some of their says – though I hope I can copy the entire book here –
1) “Our direct experience is not of reality, but what is in our mind” – Plato.
It’s from his allegory The Myth of The Cave. Personally, this allegory left a very deep impression on me as my mind tends to visualize what I want to believe instead of what is in the reality.

2) “Whatever is outside all possibility of experience for us can be nothing for us. We have no validatable way of referring to it, or talking about it, and therefore it cannot enter into our discourse in any reliable way: If we stray beyond the ground covered by experience, we wander into EMPTY TALK” – Aristotle. This one is incredibly useful to avoid gossiping or me being so full of it.

3) And so forth. But I’ll just bore you with my long writing by featuring all of them here. Plus it’s more exciting to read and feel it by yourself as there’s no such a single interpretation on every ideas human capable to contemplate. All theories, concepts, ideologies, and ideas are remained questionable and have distinct profound impressions on every person, because that’s the very heart of Philosophy.

 

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Clever and Civilized Men Will Not Stay At Home

Last week I’ve just finished a novel ‘The Land of Five Towers’ by A. Fuadi. I can say the whole story have sucked me in, truly inspiring and successfully igniting my will to travel the world. I’ve been moved by the wisdom of Imam Syafii which was braided into a rhyme entitled ‘Travel’.

Travel

Clever and civilized man will not  stay at home

Leave your homeland and explore foreign fields

Go out! You shall find replacements for those you have left

Give your all, the sweetness of life will be tasted after the struggle

I have seen that standing water stagnates

If it flows, it is pure, if it does not, it will become murky

If the lion doesn’t leave his den, he will not eat

If the arrow does not leave the bow, it will not strike

If the sun stands still in its orbit

Man will tire of it

Gold dust is merely soil before excavated

Aloewood is just ordinary wood if in the forest

-Imam Syafii-